Anger, how do you make it go away?

When I get angry, I have anxiety, my heart speeds up, I have a tightness in my chest, and I can get hot from my head to my feet (this is when I'm really angry). As of now, I'm implementing the walk away method, but sometimes I can't walk away for arguing. Only one person who really like to push my buttons is my teen child. I get so livid with him because he pokes at me on purpose.

I don't think you can make anger go away, you can only learn to live with it and modify your reactions when you are angry. I also have anxiety when I get angry, I am trying to learn how to cope with that. My little brother seems to poke at me on purpose as well, but I try to remember that perhaps he isn't doing it on purpose, and he doesn't know that he's bothering me.

hundred4ever you said: I try to remember that perhaps he isn't doing it on purpose, and he doesn't know that he's bothering me.

I can do that. Thanks.

Oh, and then unfortunately I'll say to myself; yes, they aren't doing it on purpose, but how dense can one person be to not know how annoying they are?!? I'm having serious irritability and anger right now and am clueless as to how to get a handle. If I walk away- I will never sit down...

hypervigilant, did you change your name? Are you hundred4ever?

What does this mean: If I walk away- I will never sit down...

Anyhoo, exactly, but I guess I will have to keep reminding they don't realize their actions. I'll do this to keep me from biting into what is being done.

nope, not hundred4ever.Sorry, i think i started my post in an odd manner:)
I mean that when they say to 'walk away' i would ALWAYS be walking away, I'm always angry lately and I'd never sit down! hah! If this is working for you great- ignore me- i'm being...uh irritable:)

You really need to talk to your doctor. Non-drug solutions include Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and there are also drug solutions. I speak from experience when I wanted to punch everybody out and worse!!

Hi all Anger OH baby do I get that.

I recognize the feeling, absolutely and most times if I'm overwhelmed angry I cry, which I HATE to do, cause I feel like its a show of weakness.
I also relate totally to the teen kid reeling you in. I don't know why I always take the bait, even my husband will ask me that, why are you falling for it? At this point, I can put myself in timeout and go do something away from him. Its not like I can spank him anymore and certainly trying to send him to his room is undoable. He's 19. He's also been irritating all of his adhd life. So some of it is just him and some of it just me. I used to say if I'd had him first I woulnd't have had a second. Sometimes I still feel that way :)
If I can catch myself being reeled in, I can cut the line. There was a time when the boys were younger though, I was shrew mom, I screamed and cussed at the boys, I feel pretty bad for that but probably some mania I wasn't aware of. I didn't get diagnosed with anything til the boys were 15 and 17.
sometimes it helps for mom to take a time out (even if that's get in the car and ride around listening to some very loud hard rock music and screaming along).

Amy

I started meditation and it really works

I have to go to class and do it with a teacher at least once a week and then I use the *ging back to breath8 technique as a way of coming bacl to neutral.

Amyf,
that's one of my biggest fears; how this will effect my kids. I have two little girls 3 1/2 and 10 months and I'm sure they think they have a monster mommy!!

You're too cute Clay, LOL.

Thanks Amy, I am happy to know I'm not an isolated case with my son. Maybe if we curse and scream at them they will, naw forget it, lol, my son loves to scream back. My time-out is in my room.

IM I'm glad to hear you're doing well with meditation.

just so you all can rest assured, kids are pretty resilient, mine are 19 and 21 and don't seem to have suffered any ill effects from mom losing it there for a while. neighbors usually tell me I have good boys and while they still like to torture me at home (kid stuff), I figure I've done all right if they know how to behave in public.
nice, mostly goodnatured and good work ethic. I guess I'll keep em :)

I don't have teenage children yet but my 8 year old tests my patience all the time. I have to say that sometimes, I just need to walk away and then address it later because I am bipolar. I think it's a lot harder for me to deal with it rationally until I calm way down. Sometimes I just ask her to go play/hang out in her room, not as a punishment, but so that I can talk to her later. Then once I calm down, I am able to talk to her better.

I feel like my BP has really hurt my daughter. My daughter has an eating disorder ( also inherited from me ) and is depressed. Just recently (I am bipolar 1) I went into a prolonged mixed mania with delusions and rages and some auditory hallucinations. All my rage seemed to be directed at her ( our relationship is already emotionally charged because of her issues ) it seems that since then her weight has dropped and her depression has deepened ( sometimes crying hours at a time.) Both she and I worry that she may end up like me. I feel doubly responsible for both the genetics and the damage my mania and depressions have wrought.

I know that logically I could not have known about the BP until I had my first full mania which was after I was born. I was adopted so I had no info about my birth parents. However, I did suffer from severe depressions lasting years at a time before she was born. I feel I should have known better. Still I can't imagine life without her. She is my angel, and no matter how difficult things are at times we are together and we love each other.