Amberlynn, my 3.5 yr old sounds like your 4yo. It's interesting, he seems to be acting out more now that I just started feeling better. It makes sense to me, I figure he's feeling safer to act out now that I'm stable, I'm sure there's a lot of pent-up emotion from when I wasn't feeling well.
I'd recommend the book Parenting Your Strong-willed Child. I've found a lot of good tips, none that come to mind right now, heh, sorry. We're also at the stage of time outs, taking toys, sending to the room is not working. My IL's say it's because I allowed bad behavior for so long (which I did), it's going to take a while to correct, and it may get worse before it gets better. I just try to stay strong, unemotional when he's tantruming, and remember that only one person can rule our house and it better be me and not the 3-year-old!
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