In trouble with life

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Vikki
January 15, 2009 - 2:43 pm
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Vikki
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Well dispite being reasonable stable the last 9 months, I'm no longer coping.

I took a really well paid job that was over an hours commute away, while I was stable. I moved too.

Now my doc has adjusted my meds and I'm now off work. I don't know if I'll be able to go back as I sometimes feel unsupported and like people are trying to manage me out.

If I leave work I can go back onto the benefits I was on before but these will not cover my outgoings and so I feel pressured to get back to work.

If I go back to work I know it's only a matter of time before I feel too weak to cope with it all again and need to go into respite/recovery mode.

Any help/advice/friendly smiles would be useful right now.


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It's just not as easy as pulling yourself together nor does 'everyone has mood swings' come close.
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Vikki
January 15, 2009 - 2:43 pm
Well dispite being reasonable stable the last 9 months, I'm no longer coping.

I took a really well paid job that was over an hours commute away, while I was stable. I moved too.

Now my doc has adjusted my meds and I'm now off work. I don't know if I'll be able to go back as I sometimes feel unsupported and like people are trying to manage me out.

If I leave work I can go back onto the benefits I was on before but these will not cover my outgoings and so I feel pressured to get back to work.

If I go back to work I know it's only a matter of time before I feel too weak to cope with it all again and need to go into respite/recovery mode.

Any help/advice/friendly smiles would be useful right now.


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It's just not as easy as pulling yourself together nor does 'everyone has mood swings' come close.
ajstark623
January 16, 2009 - 7:31 pm
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Building a strong support system can really help. Find just one person at work you can trust to go to and vent anything you might be going through at the moment.

Therapy really saves me when I'm in those moments. I have learned that sometimes when I feel like people are against me if I stop and evalute that situation a little closer I realize that they just might have things going on in their lives that cause them to react the way they do.

Support groups can also be a great resource during those times. Just having people around who understand and can be supportive to help you get through it.

Hope this helps and keep your chin up.

Amanda


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ajstark623
January 16, 2009 - 7:31 pm
{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Building a strong support system can really help. Find just one person at work you can trust to go to and vent anything you might be going through at the moment.

Therapy really saves me when I'm in those moments. I have learned that sometimes when I feel like people are against me if I stop and evalute that situation a little closer I realize that they just might have things going on in their lives that cause them to react the way they do.

Support groups can also be a great resource during those times. Just having people around who understand and can be supportive to help you get through it.

Hope this helps and keep your chin up.

Amanda


Lizabeth
January 17, 2009 - 11:17 am
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Wow--you had two major stressors, your new job and your move--no wonder you are feeling it. I hope your medication adjustment helps. I agree with what everyone else says about talk therapy--it really helps me when I get depressed.
Why do you feel people are "trying to manage me out" at work. I know how horrible that can be as it happened to me. My original manager had been very supportive of me and I was honest about my depression with her--I figured it made no sense to work in heath care and act like it was the Middle Ages about Mental Health. Then she was replaced and the new manager wanted only perfect, cookie cutter nurses who could work tons of overtime and never worry about quality of patient care deteriorating because of tons of paperwork.

Even tho I knew she was illegally 'managing me out', at that point I didn't feel well enough to do anything about it. Just remember there are laws about discrimination and despite 8 years of the Republicans, those laws are still there. Or maybe you are just feeling uncomfortable because your illness is flaring up and you are new on the job. I hope you feel better soon, and again, I really think talk therapy would help.


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Lizabeth
January 17, 2009 - 11:17 am
Wow--you had two major stressors, your new job and your move--no wonder you are feeling it. I hope your medication adjustment helps. I agree with what everyone else says about talk therapy--it really helps me when I get depressed.
Why do you feel people are "trying to manage me out" at work. I know how horrible that can be as it happened to me. My original manager had been very supportive of me and I was honest about my depression with her--I figured it made no sense to work in heath care and act like it was the Middle Ages about Mental Health. Then she was replaced and the new manager wanted only perfect, cookie cutter nurses who could work tons of overtime and never worry about quality of patient care deteriorating because of tons of paperwork.

Even tho I knew she was illegally 'managing me out', at that point I didn't feel well enough to do anything about it. Just remember there are laws about discrimination and despite 8 years of the Republicans, those laws are still there. Or maybe you are just feeling uncomfortable because your illness is flaring up and you are new on the job. I hope you feel better soon, and again, I really think talk therapy would help.


HoosierK
January 19, 2009 - 11:34 am
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I had to take a 12wk FMLA leave July through October because of a failed attempt to try a new prescription med. I seriously considered applying for disability and was not yet ready when I had to return to work. I work in a nursing home with amazingly supportive co-workers with whom I have always been very open about my condition. For 2 months I only worked 2 or 3 days a week (not enough to pay the bills), but last week for the first time in months I was able to work 5 days straight for a total of about 34 hours!

I share this with you because I think you may be panicking too soon. As others have said, you've been through some major life changes. Give yourself time to adjust. And give your new employer a chance. They may yet turn out to be more supportive than you currently realize. And if this one doesn't work out, maybe the next one will.


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HoosierK
January 19, 2009 - 11:34 am
I had to take a 12wk FMLA leave July through October because of a failed attempt to try a new prescription med. I seriously considered applying for disability and was not yet ready when I had to return to work. I work in a nursing home with amazingly supportive co-workers with whom I have always been very open about my condition. For 2 months I only worked 2 or 3 days a week (not enough to pay the bills), but last week for the first time in months I was able to work 5 days straight for a total of about 34 hours!

I share this with you because I think you may be panicking too soon. As others have said, you've been through some major life changes. Give yourself time to adjust. And give your new employer a chance. They may yet turn out to be more supportive than you currently realize. And if this one doesn't work out, maybe the next one will.


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