Future babies
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January 8, 2011 - 12:57 pm
Hey everyone. It's been so long since I've been on here that I forgot my login and had to create a new one. I'm looking for some advice even though it's a bit off topic and hoping someone in here might be able to help. I am bipolar and not currently on medication. My moods have stabilized in the past several years and I have been attempting to acclimate my body to regulating it's own hormones.
My boyfriend of over 2 years and I have started discussing having children. If I get pregnant will I have to worry about severe hormonal changes? I know being pregnant is never easy hormonally but how much more will it affect me?
Also, my boyfriend has two children from a previous marriage. His daughter is 13 and has already mentioned thahedge doesn't want her dad to have any more children. We think she will be upset if we do decide to have children in the future. Is there any way we can try to handle this? I don't want to ignore her feelings, but at the same time I can't just change how I feel in order to accommodate her. Any advice?
My boyfriend of over 2 years and I have started discussing having children. If I get pregnant will I have to worry about severe hormonal changes? I know being pregnant is never easy hormonally but how much more will it affect me?
Also, my boyfriend has two children from a previous marriage. His daughter is 13 and has already mentioned thahedge doesn't want her dad to have any more children. We think she will be upset if we do decide to have children in the future. Is there any way we can try to handle this? I don't want to ignore her feelings, but at the same time I can't just change how I feel in order to accommodate her. Any advice?
Hey everyone. It's been so long since I've been on here that I forgot my login and had to create a new one. I'm looking for some advice even though it's a bit off topic and hoping someone in here might be able to help. I am bipolar and not currently on medication. My moods have stabilized in the past several years and I have been attempting to acclimate my body to regulating it's own hormones.
My boyfriend of over 2 years and I have started discussing having children. If I get pregnant will I have to worry about severe hormonal changes? I know being pregnant is never easy hormonally but how much more will it affect me?
Also, my boyfriend has two children from a previous marriage. His daughter is 13 and has already mentioned thahedge doesn't want her dad to have any more children. We think she will be upset if we do decide to have children in the future. Is there any way we can try to handle this? I don't want to ignore her feelings, but at the same time I can't just change how I feel in order to accommodate her. Any advice?
My boyfriend of over 2 years and I have started discussing having children. If I get pregnant will I have to worry about severe hormonal changes? I know being pregnant is never easy hormonally but how much more will it affect me?
Also, my boyfriend has two children from a previous marriage. His daughter is 13 and has already mentioned thahedge doesn't want her dad to have any more children. We think she will be upset if we do decide to have children in the future. Is there any way we can try to handle this? I don't want to ignore her feelings, but at the same time I can't just change how I feel in order to accommodate her. Any advice?
April 6, 2011 - 12:26 am
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Well, I'm not really sure if I have any advice on how to tell your daughter, but maybe explain to her that you aren't trying to ignore her feelings but having children is something important to you. Maybe 'cuz she's a teenager, you won't care, but later on when she gets over it (like they all do, and we I guess... I'm 19 lol) she will remember you saying, Hey I care about what you think, but I hope you can see it from my side too. And maybe when you're pregnant you can include her in some of the planning. Like, ask her opinion on room colours or themes or something. Maybe she's afraid of getting left out? I hope that helps a little.
I couldn't take my medication when I was pregnant with my son. Surprisingly, a lot of the time I was happy. I didn't get as depressed as often and I stayed in a slightly above baseline mood. Now, that may have been just me. I could tell a lot of the times when my hormones were bothering me, I would cry but not feel depressed... hormones lol. I also tried to keep my mind occupied with thoughts of my new baby. I would research stages of development, feel him kicking, research how to take care of him best, you know, mom stuff and that helped me stay excited about him. I also had support from my husband which made things great too.
There were times I was depressed, but it was good to have my husband remind me, Hey, you're life's about to change and that baby needs you. It's nice to feel needed and like you're really making a difference. I don't know if you have any children of you're own yet and I know you hear it from everyone who has kids, but having a baby changes your life. Yeah, you love your husband, but loving this little baby is completely different. I have never been emotional in the that I cry when I'm happy, but my son makes me want to cry all the time. I love to see him smile and laugh just when he sees me.
Right after I had my son, it was very hard for me. I think I suffered from post pardum depression. I didn't feel like I had a connection with him, and it hurt so much. I felt like I loved him... but I felt like I didn't.. if that makes any sense. If I would have gone to my pdoc I'm sure that would have been helped greatly. It took about a month or so before I really started feeling that overwhelming love for him. All of a sudden it just hit me. I MADE this human and he LOVES me and I am all he needs right now. It was amazing and it never goes away.
Just be honest with how you're feeling and I'm sure everything will be great. Tell your husband, pdoc, friends, etc when you feel like crap and they'll help. Having a support system is great and just keep thinking about this little person you're going to have.
It may not be the easiest thing you ever do, but it is definitely the most rewarding thing you can do.
Sorry I rambled a bit, hope this helps!
I couldn't take my medication when I was pregnant with my son. Surprisingly, a lot of the time I was happy. I didn't get as depressed as often and I stayed in a slightly above baseline mood. Now, that may have been just me. I could tell a lot of the times when my hormones were bothering me, I would cry but not feel depressed... hormones lol. I also tried to keep my mind occupied with thoughts of my new baby. I would research stages of development, feel him kicking, research how to take care of him best, you know, mom stuff and that helped me stay excited about him. I also had support from my husband which made things great too.
There were times I was depressed, but it was good to have my husband remind me, Hey, you're life's about to change and that baby needs you. It's nice to feel needed and like you're really making a difference. I don't know if you have any children of you're own yet and I know you hear it from everyone who has kids, but having a baby changes your life. Yeah, you love your husband, but loving this little baby is completely different. I have never been emotional in the that I cry when I'm happy, but my son makes me want to cry all the time. I love to see him smile and laugh just when he sees me.
Right after I had my son, it was very hard for me. I think I suffered from post pardum depression. I didn't feel like I had a connection with him, and it hurt so much. I felt like I loved him... but I felt like I didn't.. if that makes any sense. If I would have gone to my pdoc I'm sure that would have been helped greatly. It took about a month or so before I really started feeling that overwhelming love for him. All of a sudden it just hit me. I MADE this human and he LOVES me and I am all he needs right now. It was amazing and it never goes away.
Just be honest with how you're feeling and I'm sure everything will be great. Tell your husband, pdoc, friends, etc when you feel like crap and they'll help. Having a support system is great and just keep thinking about this little person you're going to have.
It may not be the easiest thing you ever do, but it is definitely the most rewarding thing you can do.
Sorry I rambled a bit, hope this helps!
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Well, I'm not really sure if I have any advice on how to tell your daughter, but maybe explain to her that you aren't trying to ignore her feelings but having children is something important to you. Maybe 'cuz she's a teenager, you won't care, but later on when she gets over it (like they all do, and we I guess... I'm 19 lol) she will remember you saying, Hey I care about what you think, but I hope you can see it from my side too. And maybe when you're pregnant you can include her in some of the planning. Like, ask her opinion on room colours or themes or something. Maybe she's afraid of getting left out? I hope that helps a little.
I couldn't take my medication when I was pregnant with my son. Surprisingly, a lot of the time I was happy. I didn't get as depressed as often and I stayed in a slightly above baseline mood. Now, that may have been just me. I could tell a lot of the times when my hormones were bothering me, I would cry but not feel depressed... hormones lol. I also tried to keep my mind occupied with thoughts of my new baby. I would research stages of development, feel him kicking, research how to take care of him best, you know, mom stuff and that helped me stay excited about him. I also had support from my husband which made things great too.
There were times I was depressed, but it was good to have my husband remind me, Hey, you're life's about to change and that baby needs you. It's nice to feel needed and like you're really making a difference. I don't know if you have any children of you're own yet and I know you hear it from everyone who has kids, but having a baby changes your life. Yeah, you love your husband, but loving this little baby is completely different. I have never been emotional in the that I cry when I'm happy, but my son makes me want to cry all the time. I love to see him smile and laugh just when he sees me.
Right after I had my son, it was very hard for me. I think I suffered from post pardum depression. I didn't feel like I had a connection with him, and it hurt so much. I felt like I loved him... but I felt like I didn't.. if that makes any sense. If I would have gone to my pdoc I'm sure that would have been helped greatly. It took about a month or so before I really started feeling that overwhelming love for him. All of a sudden it just hit me. I MADE this human and he LOVES me and I am all he needs right now. It was amazing and it never goes away.
Just be honest with how you're feeling and I'm sure everything will be great. Tell your husband, pdoc, friends, etc when you feel like crap and they'll help. Having a support system is great and just keep thinking about this little person you're going to have.
It may not be the easiest thing you ever do, but it is definitely the most rewarding thing you can do.
Sorry I rambled a bit, hope this helps!
I couldn't take my medication when I was pregnant with my son. Surprisingly, a lot of the time I was happy. I didn't get as depressed as often and I stayed in a slightly above baseline mood. Now, that may have been just me. I could tell a lot of the times when my hormones were bothering me, I would cry but not feel depressed... hormones lol. I also tried to keep my mind occupied with thoughts of my new baby. I would research stages of development, feel him kicking, research how to take care of him best, you know, mom stuff and that helped me stay excited about him. I also had support from my husband which made things great too.
There were times I was depressed, but it was good to have my husband remind me, Hey, you're life's about to change and that baby needs you. It's nice to feel needed and like you're really making a difference. I don't know if you have any children of you're own yet and I know you hear it from everyone who has kids, but having a baby changes your life. Yeah, you love your husband, but loving this little baby is completely different. I have never been emotional in the that I cry when I'm happy, but my son makes me want to cry all the time. I love to see him smile and laugh just when he sees me.
Right after I had my son, it was very hard for me. I think I suffered from post pardum depression. I didn't feel like I had a connection with him, and it hurt so much. I felt like I loved him... but I felt like I didn't.. if that makes any sense. If I would have gone to my pdoc I'm sure that would have been helped greatly. It took about a month or so before I really started feeling that overwhelming love for him. All of a sudden it just hit me. I MADE this human and he LOVES me and I am all he needs right now. It was amazing and it never goes away.
Just be honest with how you're feeling and I'm sure everything will be great. Tell your husband, pdoc, friends, etc when you feel like crap and they'll help. Having a support system is great and just keep thinking about this little person you're going to have.
It may not be the easiest thing you ever do, but it is definitely the most rewarding thing you can do.
Sorry I rambled a bit, hope this helps!
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