Dear Ami, I just joined this board but I want to share my story because I am so glad to know that I am not alone.
I had no idea what I was experiencing was anxiety for years and years. People would write off my isolating and erratic behavior as selfish and manipulative and that I was "weak". I thought my depression and my freakish responses to seemingly insignificant daily let downs was simply my inability to control my impulses due to what various people thought the best sounding label was at the time (BPD, Anit-social, etc) It wasn't until someone told me that I might have PTSD (as well as bipolar) that my entire life changed. When I started taking Lamictal (Ativan) it literally changed my life and enabled me to do my work without thinking I was about to die and minimized the terror that comes to me every day. These thoughts that I was about to die was something I confused with me wanting suicide. Instead I realize now it was my brain trying to tell my how intolerant it was to certain stimuli due to my PTSD. I have been undergoing counseling and spiritual practices now based on helping my body feel relaxed even when I am terrified. If you don't mind, I would like to share some of my personal coping strategies. I used to be a cross country athlete and also a practicing high school coach. The ways I would instruct my students to heal and prevent injuries I realize I could apply to my own recoveries.
When I was a coach there was a phrase we used to describe treating injury, it is called RICE. Rest Ice Compress Elevate. Strangely I apply this to emotional trauma like so:
Rest - keep your body in a restful state as much as possible in day to day life. Including minimizing daily stress. When you do not rest between stressors, you increase the chance of a muscular (or mental) tear. Feel the calm in your body as much as you can. Train your muscles to relax by practicing tension release (such as clenching fist into balls, then relaxing them, or tapping oneself) Stretch your body and your mind if you can, between daily chores or errands. When a stressful event occurs, plan to take time to recover. When you do not do the things to keep your body rested you body will react and cause you to have a mental or physical (or both) breakdown. Avoid foods that increase cortisol or encourage fast changes in blood-sugar levels or mental state. Caffiene, raw sugar, and any allergens are too be avoided and or if ingested, sparingly so. Eat at regular intervals, and enough to feel full. Never feel hungry for more than an hour. This is hard for me, as I am currently stuck with a really bad sugar addiction, and when I am stressed, I involuntarily starve myself.
Ice - When I stressful reaction occurs. Freeze yourself. Do not make any major decisions, nor move your location, drive, cook, or operate anything that is dangerous. If you are in a place that is a trigger, move, however once you are in a safe place, do nothing. Cancel all appointments. Do not work. Do not talk either, unless to communicate an absolute need. Find yourself the most comfortable position and stay there. Call for help. If you have to communicate, do so slowly, as if you are under anesthetic. (This works I am serious!!!) Tell someone immediately that you must rest. Do your best to also freeze any negative thoughts about yourself or others. THIS IS ESPECIALLY IMPORTANT. I HAVE LITERALLY PUT MY HEAD IN THE FREEZER AT MY HOME TO REMEMBER THIS POINT. FREEZE YOUR MIND!!
3) Compress. You must force yourself to stay immobile in thought and deed. When you feel something coming out of you like a panic attack coming on, treat it like being sick with the flu. You must avoid over-stimulation of the area that is now in "panic" must be treated like a bruise or a cut. Don't poke it, move it excessively or rub it in someones face (haha). Don't expect it to be healed in one day. Don't think you must perform perfectly right away. Restrict yourself to keeping things simple. These are silly analogies but they work for me! Its sad we have a gung-ho culture, but if you want a full recovery it is absolutely critcal you restrict yourself during the healing process. Do not think that while you are healing and creating new "mental or emotional" "tissue" that you can immediately go about your life with all guns blazing, or without some pain in your movement.
4) Elevate. This one is the most beautiful analogy for me and the one I like to use the most. I take it as bringing the mind to something higher (however its true for muscles as well). Whether you believe in a higher power or not, or whether it makes you feel better to think of a flower, or a loved one, or just your own sense of integrity, or some beautiful memory. I have litterally used this idea to hold my loved one's face as if they are hovering above me and filling me with warmth. I have had to do these things for minutes and hours depending on the severity of my many many attacks. Sometimes, while I am in a depression, it is the hardest thing in the world, and all I was able to think of was a beautiful memory years and years ago. (Which was why I was so depressed, but if you can HOLD IT for as long as you can, that is a great success, I have literally tried to recall the exact smell of the ground and the sound of the wind during really bad attacks) When I was in a very distressed time in my life (read: homeless) I am getting teary just talking about this, but trust in the higher power of a loved one from my past really saved me when I thought my life was over (PS I'm an agnostic/pantheist/universalist so I think of memories and loved ones, but I do believe in a higher power, i just don't have as clear of a picture of it/her/him yet)
None of these 4 things: Rest Ice Compress Elevate are a guarantee to complete recovery, however, (as I learned when I was getting my coaching certificate, litterally this is right out of the National High School Interscholastic Federation Handbook) when you combine these things together you have a much higher chance of returning to complete functionality in whatever part of you is damaged and avoid any future injury as you apply these to your daily life. This is something they made us repeat to our students as well.
Rest is the best way to avoid any injury at all, when an athlete or worker does not rest, that is usually how they get injured (if its not purely an accident) I think of this from a counselors standpoint as how important it is to realize many of us with anxiety disorders simply do not know how to rest. We were not taught, or some trauma made us forget, or its just something we have less ability to do. So. . . practice resting if you can as the number one deterrent.
Ice is the second best way to avoid "serious" injury. When I was a coach, I gave athletes this advice all the time, if anything hurt enough to tell me about it, I told them to ice it when they got home no matter what, and 7 x out of 10 they were fine the next day. So, its similar to STOPPING before causing any more harm. When an athlete or worker is Icing, then a Physical Therapist would at that point tell them to reduce their work load. Icing reduces swelling.
The other one, compression is very good for serious injury and its also the same as restriction of movement. Its the hardest to do, as I am one of those people who likes to pick my scabs etc etc . . (eww . . .sorry) and I am also a motormouth, so in my times of anxiety I can just dig myself into a huge pit of negative self talk. . . .
Lastly, elevate is something that really helps too, but its one of those things that depends on ones own commitment too it. Some coaches I knew in high school said do not elevate, others said yes, do. So before this analogy drives me any crazier with how weirdly it fits into everything, I hope this can help you in a little way.
I used to go "panic-blind" my anxieties were so bad, just so you know, that means I would literally go blind for a few minutes at a time. Now I do these kinds of short mantras for myself. Like RICE RICE RICE or FREEZE FREEZE FREEZE and over time, they trigger the correct behavior that minimizes the damage and the level of crisis.
God bless and good luck.
Joined: 05-09-2011