I'm curious if anyone out there is BPD with children. My husband and I are starting to step down my meds tomorrow in order to try and become pregnant soon and as excited as I am, I'm also very nervous and looking for any suggestions to help build a support system. We are new to the state we're in (2000 miles from home), and don't know anyone, my family doesn't speak to me and I have very few friends that I occasionally talk with on the phone. We're currently down to one car and live in the middle of the country - I don't work so I'm at home during the day with my animals. I know that without my meds I'm going to need someone to talk to aside from a counselor.
There are so many things I'm worried about - my age affecting the pregnancy (I'll be 35 this year), not to mention the complete meltdowns I'm anticipating once we start to step down the meds (they always happen). I worry we'll put getting pregnant off again because I might get too bad without meds and it'll then never happen due to my age. I'm worried the amount of stress I put myself through without meds could cause harm to the baby. I'm also worried about what type of parent I'll be having BPD. I want to be the absolute best possible and nothing like my own mother, but even the best of intentions seem to fall to the wayside during one of my episodes...
At times I know I can pull this off successfully with the right support, at other times I'm pretty sure I can...but I don't think it'll happen without support... Any suggestions, experiences, links would be much appreciated.
I should mention that I was diagnosed with Bipolar with BPD in 2009 - until then I was diagnosed with Bipolar. My husband and I strongly, strongly, strongly feel that my dominate issue is the Borderline due to my trouble with relationships, frequent irritability and anger, occasional rages where I have hurt myself and others, constantly changing sense of self and poor self worth. I can't say that I completely write off the bipolar diagnosis though... Things have been so much better since they put me on Trileptal in 2009.
Wow - just writing that makes me feel like a completely unfit candidate for motherhood. That's another thing - I feel that other people feel because I have BPD I'll be an unfit mother and shouldn't consider being a mom...I know my mom and grandma feel that way - they've told me. But we want this so bad - we want a family to fill our home with laughter.
It's just...hard. I'll leave you with a novella instead of a novel, before I start crying. :)
Seriously, if you read this whole thing...you rock.
Medications for February 28, 2012 to March 29, 2012
| 03-10-2010 - Present: | Fluoxetine HCL Caps, 20 mg.Once in the morning |
02-10-2010 - Present: | Oxcarbazepine, 300 mg.One in the morning, Two at night |
05-10-2004 - Present: | Seroquel Tabs, 200 mg.One time at bedtime |
04-15-2003 - Present: | Pantoprazole SOD DR Tabs, 40 mg.Once in the evening |
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