Welcome to the board. Don't be disheartened that people are slow to respond as this board is not as active as the bipolar board. I really can see how you are trying to change. You seem as if you have a good therapist. Now you need to help your hubby get one too. Seeing a therapist is daunting for some, and a nudge to get started might be all it takes.
I am glad you both sound as if divorce is not the answer. It usually never is unless there is violence or emotional abuse. Seems that when people divorce, they are no happier. So one might as well work with what they have.
I can understand the trust issues you are having. That will take time to heal. What can you do to get the anxiety in check so you can move forward. Have you tried anything just completely different? Lately, I have put my anxious energy into cooking. I am really interested in it and it keeps my mind occupied. Therefore, less anxiety. Perhaps yoga, gardening, running--lots of things can help. Do you mood track?
I actually do not have BPD, but complex PTSD and bipolar. However I have a lot of overlapping traits with BPD including anxiety, rage, depression etc., which is why I also peruse this board. (I think bipolar, BPD, PTSD and anxiety are in one big swirling pot.!)
Therapy is a godsend and really heals. Regardless, I do see in myself how stubborn depression and anxiety can be. But, I am trying new things, some work, some don't. See what you can think of and post. We will be here.
Take care.
Joined: 04-13-2012