New self diagnosis

New to this.
Self Diagnosed with BPD
I fit every single description/symptom and reading forums on the subject,I identify with it.I will be going to get help/professional diagnosis as soon as we are done moving. For right now I am just trying to self help myself with mixed success.
Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself.
29 years old otaku female

Hi,
I did the same as you. No therapist wanted to tell me; guess they thought I'd freak out:) I have done a lot of research and the best treatment/cure is dbt…… dialectical behavior therapy. Developed by Marsha Linehan (check out her website and story) it is cbt with mindfulness and 4 modules of skills: mindfulness, emotion regulation, distress tolerance and interpersonal skills. done in a skills group or in my case with a private therapist and a workbook. dialectical means two opposing things i.e. acceptance/compassion and change. much comes from buddhism and it is your best bet along with therapy and meds if needed for other symptoms such as depression anxiety etc. i wish you the best and am in the early stages myself but i researched like crazy since no one offered me the help or treatment. budddhism is being used more and more in psychology especially mindfulness: being in the moment rather than past/future. when i am disciplined enough to actually do this much of my fear/anxiety is dissipated. hard to be consistent when depression has never been under control but it's all about trying for compassion for yourself:) it is tough. i try but sometimes just get tired. i do find myself more even feeling as far as mood i.e. less roller coasterish as far as the anger and just the self awareness and being conscious of the skills even if i don't always do them. i did a quick overview of all of them. you use what works and skip what doesn't; there's plenty of options. there is a support site i forget name but if you google dbt support it should come up with lots of info. mindfulness encompasses everything; just means pay attention to the present moment and be aware. lots of breathing and calming through that. also youtube has lots of guided meditations. i highly recommend yoga nidra. also, relaxing music; snatam kaur is very therapeutic music. yoga is personally helpful (the slower more meditative type, not power or hot. hope this is of some help.

Thank you for all the information!
Since we are still in the process of moving and wont actually be settled for another month I cant start on most of that yet. What I have done however is set up a skype group to where I can go talk my feelings out in a safe place. I am also eating a healthier diet. When I feel my emotions spiraling out of control,I go take a st johns wort pill, and then take a walk or listen to soothing music.I am checking into moodtracker everyday!

Self diagnosed bpd too, my pdoc refuses to give me a precise diagnose and I have to make do with the infi I can collect by myself. It would be bpd with a mixed symptomathology of bipolar. Or this is what I can figure out so far.

What bugs me though is: why do pdocs avoid giving this diagnose? It's not like you can die from it and knowing what you have shoyld be a blessing, other people to relate with etc. So why do they refuse to tell you when you have bpd?

Hi sounds like you all need to find a new doctor who will listen and correctly diagnose you , It took me years and many doctors before I got the correct diagnoses , just keep taking care of yourselves and change doctors as needed

Could there be a reluctance to diagnose because of insurance reimbursement? Bipolar treatment gets paid for, and I think it can be a catch all diagnosis for any condition that causes mood lability. Just my thoughts-- I don't know if that is actually the case.

I dunno. I think BPD is so vast and includes so many different presentations that clinicians just don't see it. If you read much about it, you will see that the "classic presentation" is probably only a partial description of the entirety of you. I am reading a book right now called Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder which provides many descriptions of our unique characteristics that you don't find in the general medical descriptions. It's interesting. Another book that has been very helpful for me is called The Untethered Soul. What I have found is that a lot of things help for a little while, but nothing lasts and I find myself, once again, with myself.

I am just coming back to this site after a 2 year hiatus. Glad you are here.