Catlover,
Having a proper diagnosis of a serious illness at least means we can take the serious steps that others with the same illness take to do as well as possible. Plenty of people in this forum, including I, have gone through much, if not all of what you have recently experienced. Often, it's what causes us to finally get the right diagnosis and meds.
I've been hospitalized seven times in my life for as much as five weeks, but not at all in the last 14 years.
I well remember crying for hours unconsolably on the foor, as well as having sex with two women in one of my courses in the same week, and STILL thinking of ways to kill myself at every moment. None of my friends was surprised when I ended up hospitalized.
Hospitalization can give a person a much-needed break and a rest from the compulsive behaviors and struggles that are so common among untreated or insufficiently treated bipolars. I needed five weeks away from dating to have any chance of breaking the compulsion.
Because we don't always know if our copious new and wonderful ideas are symptoms of our illness, sometimes it's a good idea to simply do nothing (or nothing new) for a while. Sure, we have great ideas, sometimes grandiose ideas, but almost all of them can be put off fotwot least a month or two.
Certainly, trying to implement several great new ideas SIMULTANEOUSLY will increase our feelings of being out of control, ratchet up our stress and even precipitate the depression that comes with realizing we are overwhelmed and don't know what to do about it.
Better to try doing NOTHING but the essential for a while and then only slowly add activities slowly after reality checking them with several people we trust.
I don't try to implement any plans without first discussing them with trusted friends for a while. I'll sit with an idea for a month or a year, looking at it from various perspectives and studying my own motives before "pulling the trigger" and implementing an idea.
If you do nothing new for six months besides learn about and treat Bipolar I and develop support networks, that will be a great foundation for everything else you will do in life!
I would suggest that if you doubt your moods that you IMMEDIATELY tell your husband and/or a member of your support network, discuss the symptoms, reality check and make decisions together about what steps you need to take to have the support you need.
Be compassionate with yourself, bu without indulging the impulses you have rightfully come to distrust based on harsh experience.
As for medication, I found at the beginning that trazadone slowed down my thoughts and relieved my impulses to immediately do SOMETHING, ANYTHING! It might help you avoid those times when you want to do crazy shrit. Trazadone miraculously, MIRACULOUSLY enabled me to drive at the speed limit instead of driving 90 MPH in the breakdown lane to pass other drivers.
Trazadone also made me sleep peacefully a lot.
If you are like most bipolar 1 people on here, it will take a combination of medicines to prevent the mania, mood swings, sleeplessness, depression, odd impulses, suicidal ideation... For most Bipolar people, it takes a trial and experience-based combination of medicines to successfully quell so many symptoms.
If you can find a medicine that makes you sleep regularly as soon as you take it, (for me it's the combination of Xanax and Seroquel) and (e.g. alprazolam/Xanax, Seroquel/quetiapine, trazadone, or etc.), then just being able to sleep will probably make you feel dramatically better and will reduce the number of hours per day when you have to worry about anything at all.
Best wishes. Please keep sharing.
Oh! Read Kay Redfield Jamison's "An Unqiet Mind"! Best read ever about serious Bipolar I and healthy recovery.
https://www.amazon.com/Unquiet...
Joined: 08-02-2011