I just read an comment on another blog that said that they were a health practitioner and DBT does not work for all BPD people, because the hypersensitivity and shame force the emotions into dangerous repression and BPD use DBT to try harder to pretend there is nothing wrong, because we are suggestible and senstive to the opinions of others, and many of us would rather die than let anyone know what is really going on. So we are desperate for a fix and to appear presentable to people, so we use DBT as a further kind of false-hope scenario that leaves us feeling broken.
This happened to me it was awful, because my "friends" who knew I was in the program kept telling me "oh you aren't using it correctly." What am I? I have BPD, my ability to process experiences properly is never going to be perfect.
At least for me, right now, I am realizing that I used the DBT incorrectly without also having an adequate support network. I am really down today I am sorry, so I don't mean to be a detractor to something that IS absolutely beautiful as a tool, but for me, I cannot proceed without getting over my need to hide my feelings and use DBT to show a "false front" to people and "think myself" into being ok. That's not going to happen. The problem is all of my friends and co-workers have no tolerance to my needs and my view of myself as a BPD sufferer is absolutely intolerant to them. And yes I wouldn't be alive if I wasn't an optimist at heart and in fact I have been practicing mindfulness for years. I'm just saying I think people with BPD need to be careful using DBT without a a good support network and safe place to/way of vent and admitting the magnitude to the pain that we suffer. DBT is too cold and its false that we can ever "think away" our sensitivities and emotional irregularities with positive thinking. I went overboard myself trying to pretend that mindfulness was all I needed, and it was really terrible that other people were putting me down for not using the DBT enough. So then I absolutely bottomed when I still messed up and my emotions were still red-letter obvious to everyone. They still are, I'm BPD its not going to go away, hopefully DBT can keep me alive that's all its good for it seems, but like I said, its also a way we can shame ourselves or others or think its a magical fix. Which is really something BPD people fall for a lot it seems.
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