I have to admit, though it hurts me every time, that I have Bipolar Affective Disorder type II (there's just something about the acronym for that: BAD!). That just about sums up my feelings about it. I get depressed and sit at a mid-range low really feeling that that's kind of normal. When I'm baseline, it feels like I'm happy for the first time in ages. But when I'm hypomanic - never any of the euphoria that I'm "supposed" to feel as someone with BP, I'm a horrible person who makes everyone around them miserable with my irritability, obsessions, aggression, need for greater body space (THAT's good for the sex life!) and sensibility to touch (in a negative way). This is the worst of both worlds.
Do the highs in BP1 help to balance all this negativity?
I can see it now that I've been diagnosed and can recognise my behaviours in light of my "mood". But I still struggle with the difference between BP1 and BP2. How do I explain it to others? And why does every media representation only talk about BP1? I feel left out, dismissed, swept under the carpet, in the too hard basket.
My husband is still struggling to understand 5 or 6 years since the diagnosis, following several more years of being "depressed". (I printed the posts in "Husband having a hard time understanding wife's bipolar" because it was all so much what we deal with together.). My mum and dad were told by him - in explanation for a dreadful letter I wrote to them telling them how much they continued to hurt me - but have never acknowledged that to me. My twin sister was told by my best friend who "thought she should know". My little sister lives next door so she knows because it gets to uncomfortable to hide much. I have a few other people who know, including a couple at work because events have occurred that have thrown me out, causing them to have a need-to-know.
How do you avoid the bias and prejudice that comes with the knowledge of this condition?
How do you chart "I feel horrible because I keep upsetting everyone and I don't like who I am due to the hypomania" into a positive mood?
How do I get my family members assessed - both my sisters and problably my Dad, even his mother may have BP, but what I observe they all choose to ignore or don't want to know. That leaves me to be the one with the problem, the one who is out of control, the one to pussy-foot around.
Oh, and I'm so scared watching my 10yo daughter's moods that she might be BP too. Guilty Guilty Guilty. It's not fair either way - the living with me and/or the genetic lottery. Then my 8yo son seems ok, but has become a super sensitive angel to respond to my every need and mood, to intercede and calm me where needed.
Yeah, I'm in a hypomanic phase. Sorry for the verbal diarrhoea.
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