I've been there, too. Fortunately for me my moods are rapid cycling with every menstruation, so these cry-all-the-way-to-work days occur for about 2-3 days for me and then they pass. I know it's got to be a lot harder when the most lasts much longer, but as soon as my mood begins I do two things - one, I pray for God's assistance and then I let myself feel whatever I'm feeling and don't beat myself up. If I cry all the way to work and cry in the bathroom a couple of times during breaks - so be it. I usually feel much better after a good day of crying. They're my emotions, darn it, and I'll have them and express them however I choose.
I have had worse feelings, like when I was on too much Prozac and I felt numb. I wished for anything- crying, anger, mania, just anything to feel something, so I would much rather cry all day than feel numb.
Anyway, the second thing that I do is promise myself that I can have or do whatever I want within reason. So, if I want to spend $20 on something I don't need, but have wanted, I have that option. If you have a greater budget than mine, that's wonderful. Or, I promise myself that if I can just get through the day and perform my job to the best of my ability, I allow myself to read for an hour before I go to bed after the kids are in bed.
For some reason, having that thing to look forward to at the end of each bad day helps me focus not on the moods so much as the goal and if the goal becomes uninteresting halfway through the day, move the notch mark back a little. $25 in stead of $20, or an ice cream cone on the way home from work and then a serious 40 minute work out to blow off stress after the kids are in bed. This may not work for you, but working out really helps me to relax and I sleep better. Other people get all hyped up working out at night.
Obviously if you don't have two nickels to rub together (and I've been there, too) then you will have to become more creative in your little "prizes for getting through the day". If you're like me and having a clean house is very important, then I just make it my mission that one room of the house will be spotless before I go to bed. I have a lot of friends who would much rather not lift a finger on the house after working all day, and I think if that works for you, do that, too. I have to have order. It makes me feel better.
Long story - short, I think if you can get your mind on something else besides what's causing the stress and focus on anything, no matter how trivial it may seem, you can assist your mood throughout the day. Just make sure that whatever your goal or prize is, that it is something that you want, not something that you need or have to do. It's important that whatever you focus on is for you - either your health, your heart, your soul, your sanity, whatever, but it's for you today, not for someone else.
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