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April 8, 2009 - 6:35 pm
Hello,
Everyday I go through so many emotions. I have been talking to a psychologist for a while, but I am in college and so I haven't talked in a while. I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 5 years (Long distance for 1 year) and I take so much out on him. I constantly have to be reassured that he loves me, or that we will be okay being long distance- even though I know I never want to be with anyone else. It is just painful because even if I don't feel upset about our relationship (we have a very healthy relationship), or nothing bad has happened, sometimes I randomly need to be reassured... Does anyone else feel this way sometimes. I constantly need to be reassured that I am doing the right thing- picking the right dental school (attending in less than a year).. or even what to eat! I have always been such a confident and independent person, I am not sure what is happening!! Please help
How do I ease this pain that I am putting on my amazing relationship (ps I haven't been like this forever, it just started happening the past year)
Thank you..
Everyday I go through so many emotions. I have been talking to a psychologist for a while, but I am in college and so I haven't talked in a while. I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 5 years (Long distance for 1 year) and I take so much out on him. I constantly have to be reassured that he loves me, or that we will be okay being long distance- even though I know I never want to be with anyone else. It is just painful because even if I don't feel upset about our relationship (we have a very healthy relationship), or nothing bad has happened, sometimes I randomly need to be reassured... Does anyone else feel this way sometimes. I constantly need to be reassured that I am doing the right thing- picking the right dental school (attending in less than a year).. or even what to eat! I have always been such a confident and independent person, I am not sure what is happening!! Please help
How do I ease this pain that I am putting on my amazing relationship (ps I haven't been like this forever, it just started happening the past year)
Thank you..
Hello,
Everyday I go through so many emotions. I have been talking to a psychologist for a while, but I am in college and so I haven't talked in a while. I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 5 years (Long distance for 1 year) and I take so much out on him. I constantly have to be reassured that he loves me, or that we will be okay being long distance- even though I know I never want to be with anyone else. It is just painful because even if I don't feel upset about our relationship (we have a very healthy relationship), or nothing bad has happened, sometimes I randomly need to be reassured... Does anyone else feel this way sometimes. I constantly need to be reassured that I am doing the right thing- picking the right dental school (attending in less than a year).. or even what to eat! I have always been such a confident and independent person, I am not sure what is happening!! Please help
How do I ease this pain that I am putting on my amazing relationship (ps I haven't been like this forever, it just started happening the past year)
Thank you..
Everyday I go through so many emotions. I have been talking to a psychologist for a while, but I am in college and so I haven't talked in a while. I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 5 years (Long distance for 1 year) and I take so much out on him. I constantly have to be reassured that he loves me, or that we will be okay being long distance- even though I know I never want to be with anyone else. It is just painful because even if I don't feel upset about our relationship (we have a very healthy relationship), or nothing bad has happened, sometimes I randomly need to be reassured... Does anyone else feel this way sometimes. I constantly need to be reassured that I am doing the right thing- picking the right dental school (attending in less than a year).. or even what to eat! I have always been such a confident and independent person, I am not sure what is happening!! Please help
How do I ease this pain that I am putting on my amazing relationship (ps I haven't been like this forever, it just started happening the past year)
Thank you..
April 8, 2009 - 9:16 pm
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Joined: 01-27-2009
Notarom
I too need more reassurance than what may be considered normal and I'm married to and living with my guy. We've been married nearly 25 years and I need to hear him say he loves me all the time still. For me it's low self esteem. Has been all my life due to a "challenging" childhood. In my mind there is no way he could love me because I don't love myself. I've done some awful things that I'm sure no one could forgive or ever trust me again and yet he's still there for me.
Low self esteem waxes and wains in some people.
You say that you've been a confident and independent person so it's likely that this is just a set back. Depression can lead to self doubt which can lead to bugging the heck out of your guy.
As far as easing the pain you put on him the only thing I can suggest is what I do.
Tell him that you feel bad to feel so needy. Thank him for being so wonderful and try with all your might to remember that he does love you because you're lovable.
I'm not sure if my post helps or not.
Good luck.
I too need more reassurance than what may be considered normal and I'm married to and living with my guy. We've been married nearly 25 years and I need to hear him say he loves me all the time still. For me it's low self esteem. Has been all my life due to a "challenging" childhood. In my mind there is no way he could love me because I don't love myself. I've done some awful things that I'm sure no one could forgive or ever trust me again and yet he's still there for me.
Low self esteem waxes and wains in some people.
You say that you've been a confident and independent person so it's likely that this is just a set back. Depression can lead to self doubt which can lead to bugging the heck out of your guy.
As far as easing the pain you put on him the only thing I can suggest is what I do.
Tell him that you feel bad to feel so needy. Thank him for being so wonderful and try with all your might to remember that he does love you because you're lovable.
I'm not sure if my post helps or not.
Good luck.
Notarom
I too need more reassurance than what may be considered normal and I'm married to and living with my guy. We've been married nearly 25 years and I need to hear him say he loves me all the time still. For me it's low self esteem. Has been all my life due to a "challenging" childhood. In my mind there is no way he could love me because I don't love myself. I've done some awful things that I'm sure no one could forgive or ever trust me again and yet he's still there for me.
Low self esteem waxes and wains in some people.
You say that you've been a confident and independent person so it's likely that this is just a set back. Depression can lead to self doubt which can lead to bugging the heck out of your guy.
As far as easing the pain you put on him the only thing I can suggest is what I do.
Tell him that you feel bad to feel so needy. Thank him for being so wonderful and try with all your might to remember that he does love you because you're lovable.
I'm not sure if my post helps or not.
Good luck.
I too need more reassurance than what may be considered normal and I'm married to and living with my guy. We've been married nearly 25 years and I need to hear him say he loves me all the time still. For me it's low self esteem. Has been all my life due to a "challenging" childhood. In my mind there is no way he could love me because I don't love myself. I've done some awful things that I'm sure no one could forgive or ever trust me again and yet he's still there for me.
Low self esteem waxes and wains in some people.
You say that you've been a confident and independent person so it's likely that this is just a set back. Depression can lead to self doubt which can lead to bugging the heck out of your guy.
As far as easing the pain you put on him the only thing I can suggest is what I do.
Tell him that you feel bad to feel so needy. Thank him for being so wonderful and try with all your might to remember that he does love you because you're lovable.
I'm not sure if my post helps or not.
Good luck.
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