Years ago I read a book called "Simplify Your Life," and it had a chapter on simplifying the holidays. I've downsized my holidays ever since, and have no regrets whatsoever. There's lots of ideas on the web if you google simplifying the holidays. There's lots and lots of great suggestions on how to slow down and scale back. One example is
http://stress.about.com/od/hol... One of the things my brothers and I have done is to do a Secret Santa, where each person buys for only one other person. One brother organizes it for everyone. We set a $50 limit on each gift. We do one Secret Santa among us (the siblings and our significant others), and one among all the nieces and nephews. So that's just two gifts to buy, instead of 18 in our case!
Another thing I do is keep my focus on making it a good holiday for my daughter -- "make it about the children," in other words. This helps me decide whether to do this or that, or buy this or that. This means I generally don't go to holiday parties or exchange gifts with my friends. This keeps the holidays a lot calmer (and a lot less expensive) for me. When I decline an invitation, I just say that I like to keep the focus on the children during the holidays, to keep things from getting too stressful. Everyone seems to understand.
Stress is my biggest trigger for an episode or a hospitalization, so I try to keep it way down if at all possible.
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