I'm well aware that one of the symptoms of BPD is the fear of being abandoned, but this what happens to me goes to serious, almost psychotic paranoia.
In the last few months I have the urge to call my boyfriend every single hour when he's not at home (we are living together), and when he comes back, I become a complete attention w****, I feel like jumping around him and screaming "look at me, I'm heeeere!" Of course I don't do that, but I bother him with questions like "do you want coffee, tea, something? is something bothering you? did I do anything bad? can I do anything for you?" and so on. He admitted few times that because of his problems at work he may have been distracted and not paying enough attention to me, and he says that he loves me all the time, but I seem to just not hear that.
Right now, he's in hospital in his home town. I haven't seen him for almost a week as I'm in another city and I had to finish some school stuff. Of course I did nothing of all that I should do, I'm just sitting at our apartment and going completely crazy if he doesn't answer the phone when I call. I should go to see him tomorrow, but he just called me and told me I don't need to come as he will be released on Friday and come back here the same day. It made me feel rejected, and now I just want to eat some Xanax and sleep all day long.
Also, in past few days, I've been dreaming about him breaking up with me because of his ex girlfriend. I wake up terribly anxious, it goes so far I keep Xanax and water beside my bed, so I can take it as soon as I wake up. We had fight about her several times, as he keeps answering her calls, helping her with studying etc., and I'm convinced that all she does is using him, as she never ever called to ask even how he is, she calls just when she needs something.
The strange thing is that I never, ever thought that he might be cheating on me, I'm absolutely sure that he wouldn't do that, but I'm terrified that he might leave me, and I feel like I couldn't continue with my life without him. I seem to be completely depending on him, and that makes me really scared.
I never told him any of this, as I fear he would think that I'm a possessive psychopath, and that would make him leave me. But then again, I can't control my actions all the time, and I'm sure that he noticed I'm paranoid and overly attached sometimes. I didn't have the time to talk to my therapist about all of this as I had bigger problems in the moment, but I'm also scared that she would insist on hospitalizing again, and that this time it won't be a daily hospital.
Does anyone else experience this kind of trouble? How do you deal with that?
Medications for October 8, 2012 to November 7, 2012
| 10-03-2012 - Present: | Lamictal, 35 mg.Once per day, in the evening |
09-30-2012 - Present: | Xanax, 0.25.Three times per day |
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| 10-03-2012 - 11-07-2012: | Flunirin, 20 mg.Once per day, in the morning |
10-03-2012 - Present: | Lamictal, 35 mg.Once per day, in the evening |
09-30-2012 - Present: | Xanax, 0.25.Three times per day |
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| 10-18-2012 - 10-19-2012: | Flonivin-BS, 35 mg.Three times per day |
10-03-2012 - 11-07-2012: | Flunirin, 20 mg.Once per day, in the morning |
10-03-2012 - Present: | Lamictal, 35 mg.Once per day, in the evening |
09-30-2012 - Present: | Xanax, 0.25.Three times per day |
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| 10-03-2012 - 11-07-2012: | Flunirin, 20 mg.Once per day, in the morning |
10-03-2012 - Present: | Lamictal, 35 mg.Once per day, in the evening |
09-30-2012 - Present: | Xanax, 0.25.Three times per day |
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Joined: 09-27-2012